Self care should not be an option, it should not take second in your long list of to do items, it should not be an afterthought. Self care should be at the forefront of every individual goal.
So why is it hard to actually do it?
I've been thinking a lot about my priorities. Who I am? What I want to do with my life? Yeah...every now and again it's healthy to revamp your world.
Reexamine your to-do lists, goals, and wants. Take it in small gulps. Don't think about your life in a general sense, that can be overwhelming for anyone. Especially me. Think about specific attributes instead.
Cross out all the stuff that makes you unhappy that you have power over. Those that make you unhappy that you don't have power over, ahem, all the housework, day job, etc change your mindset about them. Draw in your resources (kids to clean), take a vacation (forget the job for a while), and take a break.
Add something pleasurable to your list. Something for you.
And do it.
Revisit this often and revamp it.