Wednesday, December 5, 2012

IWSG


It's time again.

This time I'd like to write a bit about my insecurities as a parent. My son turns sixteen today. And I am so proud to be his mom.  He has been my partner in crime, my confidant. He has such an awareness about him that goes beyond his sixteen years. He's easy to talk to and helps me when I need him. I know he will make mistakes. It is part of growing up, and I have to let him make those mistakes. And can only pray that I don't make it worse for him.

  • As a parent I'd like to shield him from making the same mistakes I did.
  • I'd like to make sure he has the tools to make good, sound decisions in life.
  • I'd like to arm him with education, perserverance, and resiliency to face the challenges in life.
  • I'd like for him to remain fifteen and not enter adulthood. =)  Do I have attachment issues. Okay, maybe a little bit.

I'd like to wish him a great birthday and to know that I love him...for eternity and beyond.




 
 
 
 

 

19 comments:

  1. Being a parent is the hardest thing ever! Happy Birthday to your son!

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  2. My son is 16 as well, and I feel the ticking clock. It is hard to think that in a few short years he'll be moving into his own life. Like you, I hope that I've been there enough, prepared him enough, taught enough, and been a good Mom. :)

    *group hugs with all the Moms of the world*

    Angela

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  3. Happy Birthday to your son and happy birthday to you- you did, afterall, birth him! It is an ocassion to celebrate and goodness me I know whatcha mean about them growing up!

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  4. oops- meant to add- I'm following you now too :)

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  5. Miranda, thanks. =)

    Angela, yes...I need a hug.

    Deidre, thanks. Following back. =)

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  6. Wonderful post! Being a mom is wonderful, and heart-breaking, and exciting. I'm sure he's going to do great with a mom like you.

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  7. Happy Birthday to your son. He looks like an amazing kid, and a lucky one to have a mome who cares so deeply!

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  8. Happy Birthday to your son! He is a cutie pie!

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  9. I'm starting to learn that our jobs as mothers of teens is to just make sure they shake it off when they make a mistake.

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  10. My son will be 5 months old on the 9th... the thought of him turning 16 truly frightens me! My daughter is 5... and already I can see my future-- she will be quite the handful :) My son though... my baby... ahh! I guess we just have to do our best to be their anchors, the ones who are always strong enough to be their support.

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  11. Tyrean & Johanna, Thanks!

    Anita, thanks. I hope it doesn't get to his head. =)

    Tonja, I know. I try not to think about it too much.

    Azia, what a wonderful way to put it. To be their anchor. He has certainly been mine. =)

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  12. you dont look old enough!
    and you obviously care so he will be fine!

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  13. From your level of concern, I'd say you've already instilled some good stuff in him. Hope he had a good birthday!

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  14. Aw, he's so handsome. And I think every parent feels the same way. It's such a scary thing sending them out into the world to make their own mistakes. But it sounds like you were an awesome mom, so I'm sure he'll be fine. ;)

    BTW Thanks for stopping by my blog with congrats.

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  15. Happy Birthday to your son :) I'm certain if you want to give him these things now, then likely it's been on your mind for a while. In which case, you've probably given him plenty of the tools and education he will need. I don't have kids, myself, but I know my mother had her own insecurities when my brother and I left home. There was much I learned on my own, and much I learned that she had given me that she had no idea she had. I had no idea she had taught these things to me until I was planted in front of one of those painfully real life decisions and had to make a choice. I've had plenty of hard decisions lately, and if it weren't for my mother and all she gave me, I'd be in a far worse way than I am. I am stronger and more capable for the lessons she gave me, because she had the same concerns you do. With all your love and concern, I am sure that he will do fine when he finds these milestones, no matter how much it might hurt for you to see him hit those times.

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    1. What a beautiful statement. Thank you for sharing it.

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  16. Oh so wonderful! Hope he had a happy birthday!!!

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