This has been driving me nuts and I have to share it. I provided feedback for someone who was seeking a beta reader and who seemed excited and happy to have found one--me. We decided to test the waters and send the first five pages. I sent her mine; she sent me hers. I provided feedback. She provided feedback and I never heard from said person again. Soon after, I read on the online board that this person was recently doubtful of her work. Of course, I felt bad. Granted it may not have anything to do with my feedback, but my gut tells me differently. And so I waited and still no word. Again I looked at the board and she's looking for a beta partner. And so I'm wondering what happened.
Critiques hurt at first. I know this first hand, but I know the more feedback I'm given the more I know where to focus my efforts. It isn't that my beta knows how to fix what's wrong but that in their opinion something is off. It doesn't mean I have to change it because they said so, it means I need to pay special attention to it, make my decision, and move on.
And so I pose this question to you--my partners in crime--what is it that you are looking for when you post your work, or when you are looking for betas? Do you tend to pair with the person who says wow your work is awesome just a tidy need of fixes? Or do you go with the person who tends to send you a 2,000 word critique on a chapter. Okay, maybe 2,000 is a bit much, but you know what I mean. I know that a balance is ideal. So if you had one more person to choose for your group which one would it be?